29 years’ jail for man who drugged wife and had her raped by 5 men to fulfil wife-sharing fantasies
Source: Straits Times
Article Date: 05 May 2023
Author: Selina Lum
Father of 4, who faced most charges among 7 men, also sentenced to 24 strokes of cane.
A 42-year-old man was sentenced to 29 years’ jail and 24 strokes of the cane after he admitted in court that he fed his wife sedatives and had her raped by five men to fulfil his wife-sharing fantasies over a period of eight years.
The father of four, identified as J, also admitted that he had raped the wives of two of the men. The assaults were often carried out without the use of protection, with the men taking photos and videos of the acts.
J is at the centre of an unprecedented case where husbands with wife-sharing fantasies conspired with other men to have their own partners drugged and raped.
Of the seven men who have been hauled to court, J, a safety officer, faces the most number of charges.
On Thursday, he pleaded guilty to six charges, with another 11 charges taken into consideration.
During sentencing, Justice See Kee Oon said: “This case involves a shocking betrayal of marital trust and egregious sexual perversion.”
The judge said he was not persuaded that J was unreservedly remorseful, despite the man’s claim that he wanted to come clean and atone for his sins.
He said the man’s mitigation plea was replete with self-serving attempts to deflect responsibility and shift blame to others, including his co-accused, and that he even resorted to victim-blaming.
Justice See said: “Any perceived grievance on his part could neither justify nor mitigate his actions.”
In his written mitigation plea, the man, who was not represented by a lawyer, described his offences as a retaliatory measure against his wife for her alleged infidelities.
Addressing the court, he said he was pleading guilty “to own up” and “to accept my due punishment”.
“Right now, my main concern is the safety of my wife as well as my children,” he added.
J had also submitted a psychiatric report stating that he had a sex addiction. But the judge did not accept that the report was reliable or relevant.
Five of the seven men have been sentenced to between three years and 22 years in prison. Three of them were each also sentenced to 20 strokes of the cane.
Three of the men – Husband K, 45, Husband L, 54, and Husband M, 45 – had helped another man gain access to their respective partners and then watched as the accomplice raped, or tried to rape, the unconscious women.
The victims were all given sedatives without their knowledge.
J had conspired with the three husbands, as well as two other men, N and O, for them to rape his unconscious wife on their matrimonial bed between 2010 and 2018.
He also raped K’s wife on three occasions between 2012 and 2013, and raped M’s former wife in 2018.
Investigations showed that J and his accomplices got to know one another on the SammyBoy online forum and other platforms where people talked about exchanging sexual partners and sharing their wives. They then introduced the other accomplices to one another.
In both private and group chats, they discussed wife-sharing fantasies where the husband would watch another man have sex with his wife.
They also exchanged details of their sex lives and shared explicit images or videos of their wives or partners with one another.
J and K each also secretly live-streamed themselves having sex with their wives to others. After watching, the men would sometimes commend one another for the acts performed.
The crimes came to light after J‘s wife discovered explicit images of herself on his mobile phone on Jan 1, 2020, and found out that her husband and K had been “exchanging wives”.
The case against O is pending.
J admitted he got to know O, 44, between 2009 and 2010. J agreed to let O contact his wife to test whether she would be faithful to him.
Between 2010 and 2011, on the pretext of feeding her medication, J gave his wife a sedative. He then invited O over and watched as O raped his unconscious wife.
Separately, J told M, a company director, that he enjoyed seeing O court and have an affair with his wife.
Between 2010 and 2011, J gave his wife Dormicum, a sleeping pill, then blindfolded her and told M, who was waiting downstairs, to go up.
While M raped J’s wife, J took photographs and a video. Some months later, J spiked his wife’s wine and invited M to come over. J took photos as M molested his wife.
In 2018, M asked his former wife to go with him to J’s flat, where J offered her a spiked drink and then raped her while M took photos.
K drugged his wife with sleeping pills on three occasions between 2012 and 2013, and when she fell unconscious each time, J raped her on the couple’s matrimonial bed.
In turn, with J’s help, K, who worked in business development, raped J’s unconscious wife at J’s flat in 2014.
After raping each other’s wives, K and J continued to reminisce about what they had done.
K said it would be nice if J could “manage to knock her up”. They also spoke of plans to get their wives raped and impregnated by other men.
In 2013, J invited L, a business development manager, to come over after spiking his wife’s wine. J later sent videos of L raping his wife to N, though L and N never met.
L went on to conspire with a seventh man, P, to rape his own wife in 2017, but she regained consciousness before P could do so.
N, a food delivery worker, raped J’s wife on two occasions between 2017 and 2018 while J took photos.
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